A friend of my daughter’s told us the other day that she and her mom (who divorced from her dad many years ago) have sold their home and are moving into a condo. While it is true that her mom wants to buy a home in the south and that in only two years she will be an empty nester, this seems like a next stage of downsizing. It seems like closing the windows of opportunity and slamming the door on possibility.I don’t love the sounds of it.
While in many ways we can be seen as the same-except I have an “extra” daughter who is 2 years younger- I feel a million years from this. In fact, I smiled thinking while she is shrinking their living space, I am growing mine. A few have said to me -why are you doing this right now, in a few years your kids will be gone – in some ways this is why I am doing it- to celebrate what we have now and to not assume anything about the future. Today is what I know.
I asked a trusted advisor if he thought I should add on to my home at this time – expecting him to say “why? how? or now?” and all he said was “Do it. Good for the soul.”
If life is this long and delicious spread, I am still seated at it. And I am not full.