I made a resolution in January to get better at something that I am not good at- public speaking. As with most things in life- that which we do seldom ,we do most poorly. In my work I dont give any presentations- except maybe to little people- so I have very little practice.
It is funny about wanting something. Sometimes all you have to do is say to yourself that you want it, write it down and open yourself up to it. And voila.
After no occasion to public speak for at least the last 12 years- I got two knocks at my ‘door’ since my ask.
In January, I was asked to speak about finding my passion. And last week I was asked to speak about starting my business and how it came to be. In both cases I did not want to do it because of fear.
In both cases I said yes.
What things are you fearful of that you are saying yes to?
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