The dictionary definition of Asunder is “into parts or pieces, widely separated especially in space.”
In February, I was interviewed by Rachel cave, CBC, for Asunder, 11 part show which began airing on Monday. I have listened to this show and I think it is beautifully done- all corners of separation and divorce are visited and exposed. It is raw and human and inspiring.
One of the things that Rachel and I discussed was my piece on Caricatures of Divorce. She asked me why this behaviour frightens me. It made me think and the answer was clear. It is easiest to be pulled down by sadness and loneliness and this must be resisted at all costs. Garbage in -garbage out-This is true about all areas of our life-what we read and watch, what we eat and very most importantly, the relationships we nurture.
Entertain the negative and the negative entertains you.
The caricatures I write about depress me. I can’t stand their embrace on the victim culture. I don’t dare think that little of me as that would make me that little. If we are given one life, to reduce it all to a cliche, a cartoon and a caricature is the saddest option I know.
Besides, cliches have a way of swallowing the individual whole. And who we are, at the end of the day, is all we have.
Tune into Asunder-it is excellent and you will like it, married or not.
I was lucky to have tuned in by sheer luck yesterday. You were outstanding on it. Everyone else was good too!
thank you Wendy- so glad it found you- I am looking forward to the rest of it-n
Hi nancy,
I think it would be great if you send us an email on your blog to tell us if you are doing interviews etc. I would tape them if i couldn’t be there to watch.
So proud of you ‘girlfriend.’
Sue
PS Our camp is going so well.. Elise is the best worker i have ever had. i don’t even have to tell he what to do! She has amazing initiative etc.
miss you.
thanks Sue-the link is above and no need to tape- if you just click there on the highlighted part it will take you to each pod cast of each show. I think you will like it – I really do. So glad to hear the camp is going well! maybe we should run one together!
Having gone through a hard divorce and knowing full well all the emotions…mostly negative that it tends to attract I can fully relate to this blog post.
Through my divorce people continually said to me “you are so strong” “you look so happy” “how are you doing it” people were in shock all the time…
my answer was always the same…”what’s the point in wallowing in self-pity…its not going to get me anywhere…life is starting now”
That positive outlook saw me through many hard times, times that I can not even remember now to be honest. I know they were beyond hard, I remember feeling my way through them on my own…but now all that they are is a vague memory of the life i lived, the road I traveled to get to the place of bliss I am now.
Over the last two years I have shared my story with many women who seem to have drawn comfort and strength from it…
Nancy I have no doubt that reading your blog empowers and gives strength to all the women who are in that place right now.
Great job!!
I would love to hear more about how you pulled yourself up. This is always inspiring for all of us. I am impressed with your attitude and I know you are just 31! keep up the good work, Thanks for reading and commenting. It is great support-n
I like the blog, like Asunder, love all of it.
Kassy – thank you for this!I hope you will subscribe-let me know if it does not work and I will help you. Would love to visit you in your inbox-best, n
I heard some of Asunder on CBC for the first time tonight. I was so sad when we pulled into our drive way and my daughter began to squirm in her car seat and I knew I wouldn’t hear anymore. I am glad I found you. I love your writing. I will be back again 🙂
Thank you for tuning in- I have had a thousand moments of needing to jump out of the car to do something when I have been in the middle of a CBC show I have liked. Thanks to modern technology we can now hear anything at our leisure with podcasts. On my website click on Asunder on the far right and then click on the highlighted part and you can listen anytime. If you have any trouble let me know. If you like my site please subscribe so I can visit you in your inbox every time I post.