Of all the full time jobs of the adult world, one of the most time consuming and challenging is staying on course with hope and remaining open to goodness.
I am not going to specify the separated and divorced here because by a certain age we all find ourselves a little broken by the world, a little lost, a lot disenchanted, perhaps heartbroken, maybe trust is shattered, we went off course and deeply regret the wasted time and what we should have done, should have seen coming or should have not done.
To stay on course we have to believe in goodness and love and all the risk that that involves and that the deal was never that we would not get hurt, and would not disappoint and be disappointed, that our hearts would not get broken and that we would not break hearts but rather that we live deeply and thoroughly and can never regret that we sat on the sidelines
bitter, broken and protected by an outer wall to all that life has to offer like a virtual bystander of our own life.