in a fire this is what I will grab

Every couple of weeks I do an Original Family Portrait with children from a family. It is a treasured  gift and I am really grateful to be a part of something that is good both for my income and good for my soul.

I have done probably 50 of these. All of them have been for intact two parent families. We could speculate why – budget for two parent families is bigger than that of the split, split people don’t want their ‘half’ family rendered on canvas for fear it will be more than just temporary, people don’t celebrate this form of family as it is typically not built this way (with some exceptions) but rather ends this way through fallout.

The father always features prominently seeing as he is typically the tallest, biggest, often oldest person in the family. I hear the excitement from these children, to make it great, and to surprise dad.

Very occasionally there has been a wave of nostalgia and a tinge of sadness for what is missing for us when I do these projects. I have never mentioned this to my children because I am trying to be the poster child for what we have not what we don’t. Besides it is mainly a feel good thing  to do this with others and for others and to pocket a handsome commission.

This week my girls were spending every (read ‘scarce’) spare minute in our art studio painting, building, doing something that was top secret for me for Christmas.There was much whispering and  even a hair dryer was going at times. That was confusing (although now I realize it was to dry the paint).

I can’t explain how it feels for someone to spend time making me something at Christmas. When it is your children you really feel that you have taught them well. When it doesn’t end up being a ceramic ashtray (I don’t smoke) and it is special/useful  to you – it is the most wonderful gift you have ever received.

It was the first gift I opened on Christmas day.

I am almost embarrassed to admit that I cried really hard when I did. (Btw, out of joy , honestly, although I am not sure it came across that way)

It was this picture of our family doing our favourite thing – swimming together.

 I stuff my own stocking and give myself gifts these days – click here for the right thing to write on a card to yourself

4 thoughts on “in a fire this is what I will grab

  1. One day, in the not too distant future, your daughters will know that yours were tears of joy. You are doing a spectacular job at raising lovely girls. Merry Christmas to your perfect family unit. xoxo deb

  2. When I started reading this I remember clearly seeing one of your family portraits and thought, ” hey, we need to do that!”
    We will. E the first to break the mold as a blended family. Are 4 kids will love doing this nd as much as they have their’ other parent’ they feel as much of a family as any children I know.
    Book us in Nancy. We will do it for Andrew’s fathers day gift and. Know he will hang it proudly in his office or on our livingston wall for all to see!
    So glad you reminded me of this great gift!
    Sue

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