so here’s the thing

so here’s the thing

being a good mom means slowly working yourself out of a job

there is a bit of built in obsolescence

they are supposed to leave us

they are supposed to find their own way

they are supposed to make their own life

we would not have it any other way

BUT

what if the day they were born you felt more right than at any other time in your life

what if all the good stuff you found out about yourself  was because of them

what if every moment you wanted to do a half way job you saw their example of hard work and determination and bravery and

that example made you try harder

and you wanted them to be proud of you too- so you did your best because they were watching

and when you were less than perfect they somehow loved you anyway

and forgave you

what if every lesson worth learning was learned through them

what if every day was better-SO MUCH BETTER- with them in it- their energy , their humour, their eternal optimism and hope, their natural beauty and earnest questions

but  you aren’t allowed to make them stay

I am writing notes to my daughter to try to tell her everything I may have forgotten to tell her before she goes. I feel like I am running out of time. Click here for that stuff and by the way it is lighter and funnier than this