great expectations

 

 

That conversation came up again recently-

you are a great single mom- how is it so?

(I can’t help it. I picture Harlem and crack and confusion about paternity)

so I had to ask to not qualify it again

how about just a great mom?

Or -if I am going to be honest- a mom who somehow got lucky and has  great kids.

And my friends said- that is something you should write about- How to raise great kids.

But I have no authority on this.  Besides, I am surrounded by great kids every day. (and sometimes frighteningly not great kids too)

But it does not need to shock when good kids come from single parents.

It has been proven over and over that one good person getting you, believing in you, asking of you and expecting from you is all any of us need.

I can be that person. To many.

Good relationships seem to be about clear expectations. (This includes great marriages and friendships .) You know what you are to each other, you communicate your expectations, you understand your roles and you share your thoughts, feelings and needs openly.

That is what we have and so far so good.

 

The best parenting advice I have heard in a long time? Here it is – put it on your mirror, your bulletin board and your bedside table. It will help you when you want to have a tantrum when you get that HUGE speeding ticket. Ummm, for example.