a little pride, a little sadness

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It happens every time I go on a first date and I like the way it is going enough to get into my life a bit. The question comes up- ‘are you and your ex on a 50-50 with the kids?’

I have no reason not to tell the truth. In fact one of the greatest things about this time in my life is I am happy with what I present to the world. I am proud of my life- I don’t feel there is anything to hide. The truth is so easy- you can always remember it.

Nonetheless, I have mixed feelings that crop up around my situation

There is no reason to mince words so I say- ‘ Nope. I have sole custody. I have raised them myself.’

When I say that I can’t believe it.

And then they say- “any support?”

And I say “No”

And they look at me and I feel many things.

PRIDE first

then a little shame

then a little sadness.

 

It is a funny thing about our own story – in a weird way we would never trade it for anyone else’s. This is who I am and all of this has contributed to the ‘me’ that I like. Something about needing to find my magic has made me find my magic. Click here on the power we all have to make anything happen

5 thoughts on “a little pride, a little sadness”

  1. I’m in the same situation as you, and I too struggle in the exact same way with that question, my answer, and then the pride/shame/sadness aftershock. Thanks for framing it so nicely.

  3. Nance – you say so much with so few words. You should feel tremendous pride. You have raised them yourself and they are amazing people. Congrats.

  5. Continue to stand tall and smile with pride just like your two beautiful daughters do every day when they think of you.

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