A divorced friend of mine went to a restaurant last night on her own. I love that she does this. She doesn’t take a book or another person, she just goes and enjoys. Very confident.
Beside her was a sweet 10 year old boy and his mom. She smiled at them listening to their sweet exchanges.
The husband/father arrives and sits down beside them. The mood changes immediately. He finally asks his wife “What is wrong? Was it a mistake for me to come?”
She is playing tough with him and he is pleading for understanding.
My friend recounts this story to me and says “Nance, I just wanted to shake this woman. Her beautiful/ dutiful husband is there with them and she is being a bitch.”
I told her I too have seen this many times too with ‘divorce eyes’ and can’t figure out why women are so bitchy yet at the same time what do we really know here?
Maybe he had an affair and they are working through it at drastically different speeds. Maybe he gambled their retirement. Maybe he insulted her family and hit on her sister at that wedding on the weekend. And then drank too much and sang with the band while he removed all his clothes. Maybe he tried to microwave the family cat. Maybe this child was the only one he thought he had until she just got the paternity letter in the mail and there are many, many more.
What do we really know?
In the meantime, if you are just being a bitch because he forgot to pick up the dry cleaning and you don’t like his tie- take it down a notch. He looks pretty nice to us. I am just sayin.