A good friend and my new running partner (even this sounds funny when I say it outloud), recently sent me a link to a video I want to share with you. With it she said “this youtube video made me think of you, my very kindhearted friend… it reflects just the kind of thing that you might have thought and stopped to do.”
After I watched it I thought about the great friends I have and how they really see me better than I really am and see me the way I want to be seen. It is this way that our closest friends see us that make us try harder to live up to the notions they have of us.
I have had a few friends and boyfriends in my life, who saw me worse than I think I am and I could not continue those friendships. I realized somehow being with them would bring me down and I might get stuck there. The world is tough and can be cold- we have to surround ourselves with warm people who see us as wonderful and unique and let us be everything we can be.
About 30 years ago I had a friend/colleague and we were talking about this very high profile person who worked in Italy in our head office. She was older, unique, handsome, with a fiery temper and odd interests. I turned to my friend and said ” Oh I would just love to have dinner with her” and she said to me ” what on earth would you possibly have to say to her?”
wow.
She was my friend and I liked her so much but I did not like the way she saw me.
I realize that those things are often said more as a reflection of how that person views themselves- but nonetheless, it stuck out.
We want to come up to how we are seen not down.
