Did you know if you walk into a home and smell fresh bread baking after 5 minutes you are no longer aware of that smell? You acclimatize, adjust to it, normalize it.
This is true of all good things we have- the people in our lives, the amazing things around us, all the good stuff.
This is why breaking away from our normal lives is so good for us. If we shake it up and change the atmosphere, the landscape, the routine we live in for a while- we come back to it all like a person walking into that fresh baked aroma for the very first time.
A long marriage has to be this way. Moments/days, even months have to exist where we can’t see the goodness and take it for granted. Also, forgive the break in the upbeat tone, let’s not forget how something foul smelling like a marriage dying, can be normalized and accepted too.
I can see everything more clearly when I get away or make change.
say you are strange and you want to run an art camp
you start with 3 cart loads of groceries
one truck full of art supplies
a beautiful setting
and some great girls
add the creative mind of an 8 year old
and it is pure fun.
I love this as a key to a great relationship/ marriage. Although Dan Savage, writer of syndicated column of Savage Love, meant it mainly as it related to an open mind regarding sex- I would argue it is a great way to live well with someone you care about on all levels/aspects of life.
By the way, I wish my last name was Savage. The name is pure cool. Think about it – Nancy Savage. I love it. Wouldn’t you buy my book with a last name like that? This not to be confused with Vicious. That name Sid’s wife can keep.
Ok not trying to insult anyone’s intelligence but all of this is worth repeating. Sometimes simple rules get buried.
(give your best in bed)
be your best
try your best
give your best
(give equal time and equal pleasure)
don’t think about what you are getting back
dig deep and give it your all. Even sometimes when you don’t want to
(game for anything – within reason)
be open to the other person’s needs, fantasies, wishes
What if we all adopted this mentality?