every day is Christmas

When you do everything for yourself and make all your decisions alone, having shirtless brown skinned boys and men buzzing around your home lifting, building and cleaning up after themselves  can feel like Christmas every day.

An enormous rusty box of a dumpster  replaces your car in the driveway.  The small job they are doing will be a  big mess and they will require this big box to hold that mess. The box is like a big present to me  even though it will carry away the floor my babies played on, the place we ate most meals as a family of four and then a family of three, the windows we looked out of to notice the backyard  maple tree changing with the seasons,with questions ‘are those snowflakes, momma?’,  and the room we danced in as we did the dishes.

As much as I have loved my home like a quirky, warm  and colourful friend with hang ups and problems, I look forward to having room to move in, work in and grow in.

When the dumpster leaves and the work is done the future will arrive. The future arrives every day but it tiptoes so quietly you can’t notice it. When you change your surroundings you celebrate all the different ways you can live because you have shaken things up. A new vista, a different perspective, an appreciation of everything stomps in with a marching band and a drum roll.

I was recently interviewed by Sarah Hampson- award winning Globe and Mail columnist-take a look at the article by clicking on  this

I have a new post published on my Flying Solo blog- take a peek at Buffalo Soldier

every fish could use a nice bike

“If they ever invent a vibrator that can open pickle jars, we’ve had it” desperate man declared recently

There are many ways to miss a man about the house  but some “boy” jobs- with a little practice- we should figure out on our own. Don’t wait till you go out on your own to learn how-

– to fill the windshield wiper fluid and change a tire

-figure out which direction is North (it’s so cute the way it never changes)

-to work the BBQ

-read a map

– to  use a caulking gun

-to wrestle Christmas trees into stands and reinforce them ideally just before they fall over

-to find out where your money is and how the darn stuff works

– to play with my handy pals; Phillips, Flathead and Allen.

– to delight in power tools- here  the ones we can use in public. My children read this blog.

-to mow the lawn – far more satisfying than vacuuming

– to light a bonfire with damp wood

-to carry twice your weight

– to look under the hood

-to, if all else fails, learn to hire someone to do it for you, without guilt.

Gloria Steinem once said ” A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” But she  has found out that they are truly indispensable and wonderful. She married one  recently for the first time at 63.

Even a fish that swims well would rather get there by bike. But you never know when the chain might fall off.