I called a friend going through a very new separation the other night on the phone. We talked for a long time.
I could feel her grief and shock.
It was important to her to let me know how different her split was from mine. This is what we do. We fear getting catalogued under the big fat dirty communal heading of failure.
I remembered some of my own darkness and sadness, although so remote now as though I had parked it on a distant planet.
I found I could give some decent advice although the scenarios are so very different.
Her voice was shaking when she said “I never planned on growing old alone. How are you adjusting to that, Nancy?”
I said “I don’t have any plans to grow old alone. ”
She now spoke loudly
“Really?”
I can’t help it. I have to think this way.
Let me know if you think it is dangerous to be so filled with faith.