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Please do not use the “c” word in my presence
Last week a friend, also divorced, was lamenting that she was not meeting anyone, that she has entered into a dry spell. She is new to two online dating sites and said “hellohowareyoudoyouwanttohaveacoffee” to 2 dozen men and heard nothing back.
It’s funny the way I react.
bad date=bad mate
seriously this is not a newsflash
I just got an email from sort of silly, often frisky but sometimes interesting blog on dating, called 10 signs you are a bad date
if any of this is a surprise to you, you may be living under a rock
BUT, I have added a few notes because I feel it is never totally black & white
BTW, doesn’t this note also include bad mate, bad mother/father, friend, lover, boss, employee- whatever?
1. you’re late (umm yes sometimes but never by a full day, or a season or a year)
2.you’re distracted (I feel this can be your fault if you are too boring and I need to be distracted because of it)
3.You lie (girl walks into a bar looking for self described tall, dark , handsome for pre arranged meeting only to find not- so- much draped over a his second double scotch- leaves and sends angry email- you weren’t there ! And he knows he has been found out)
4.You’re depressing. Please medicate before first date, at least.
5.You’re intense. Not sure on this one- stable intense is a turn on, unstable intense is very SCARY. Lock -your –door- scary.
could I please be my mother’s daughter and add my #6
#6 MANNERS -Or as dear friend put it “ Nance, I don’t think I am a snob but when he took his gum out and put it on his dinner plate (to save for after???) I was done.”
7. You are self centered. Ahh yes the monologue. But I must if the other person is boring. Or if I have had too much caffeine.
8. You are judgemental. – lets face it- only if there is something really obviously worth judging. Then it can’t be helped
9. You’re critical. When you check out my derriere when I walk away from the table and I can see your face in the mirror, make a nice one. Even better-one of surprise that it looks so good.
10. You are pre-occupied. You are on your BB on our first date? It does not make me think you are important or handsome or badly wanted. Things are looking quite ugly, actually.